2. I have been wanting to learn martial arts sence I was very little but my mom says it brings out anger but I say it gives you respect one another. Kindra - USA

... Martial Arts training will provide you with numerous benefits as long as you have the chance to learn from a capable and well qualified teacher. Indeed as you have pointed out, respect for one another as well as self-respect are one of the many results of a diligent study and practice.
... It may be that your mother has observed some martial arts from a distance or is confusing some self-defense training with true martial art. (There are some practices of women's self defense that advocate using anger as a weapon and encouraging its presence in response to an attack. While this has some short term practicalities in a short course, it is not the goal of longer term practice of martial art where anger is recognized as a negative energy-draining emotion.)
... The recognition of positive changes experienced throughout the training provides a real sense of confidence which happens when we open our minds and hearts to different possibilities and paths for solving problems or achieving specific goals. The skills that we consequently develop also provide valuable tools that can be applied outside the martial arts environment. A clear head to analyze conflicts, the determination to stand up for what is right, and the positive rejection of abusive situations or behaviors, often are confused with aggressive approaches when the observer can't contemplate that such postures are by-products of an inner harmony and recognition of ones self and persona.
... Fortunately the experience of teaching and learning martial arts produces considerable reduction of such feeling, as well as a decrease of anxiety and increase of self-esteem, inside and outside the training sessions. There is tremendous enjoyment and good feeling among practitioners of true martial art. Having said that, one thing is for sure, those who are shy, naive or submissive personalities will turn their "inner notch" up to increase their intensity to achieve a better balance in their life. In some cases that needed attitude may also be interpreted as an "angry" attitude by third parties who are observing what appears to be fighting going on.
... You seem to have a clear sense of what the martial arts have to offer, and certainly your healthy study and practice will bring the best out in you. It will be important to find the right teacher and non-competitive environment. But remember, no matter what martial art you choose, please breathe, relax and smile. Your Mom will certainly appreciate that.